Giving him the right examples to look at
His buddies could be telling him not to get married, and
that his life is over when he does. Their jokes about marriage may be
influencing his desire to get married more than his love could.
Along with observing bad break ups and divorces, his ideas
about marriage may not be as healthy as yours. You need to put virtuous and
affirmative representatives of marriage in front of his sight. Such as; happily
married couples, older couples who have made it, kids, and others who still are
in love together.
Stop smothering him
Guys can at times take for granted what comes to them so
easily. In addition to, if you are giving him too much attention, he could be
thinking that this is how the rest of marriage will be like, which is what you
don't want. Offer him space to breathe and don't overcrowd him. This will allow
him to come back to the relationship feeling relaxed and will make him miss and
desire your affection.
Men don't care about the details
For a guy, preparing a ceremony isn't something they look
forward to. He may have plans to marry you, but the details of a ceremony and
the planning that takes place along with the ceremony is something that he is
not looking forward to. Men don't get as excited about preparing weddings and
the little details that go into them.
By not mentioning the tiny and precise details about a
wedding, it can keep him away from the stress of it. This may help him actually
want to go through with it. Planning a ceremony can be the issue that keeps him
from getting married.
Give him certainty about the marriage
People need ambitions and hope to look forward to in life
otherwise they will stick to the present. When it comes to getting married, you
need to show him the intriguing subjects in marriage that he can look forward
to. Men don't naturally hope to get married throughout their whole child years.
Men usually grow up with other targets and hopes in life.
Goals in your marriage need to be put in front of him, and
give him something to hope for in your life together. Remind him about the
honeymoon, or living together in a new area, or your new and fantastic life
together. These are goals that can inspire him into marriage, rather than you
having to push him into it, let him assume it was his idea.
Men can be scared of failure
Men can be terrified of marriage and the fear of failure is
a huge part of a guy's psyche. Many marriages end in separation and watching
them is what may be triggering his fears. Fear can play a big role in the
choices we make. It's necessary to take this fear into account when realizing a
guy's fear of getting married.
By comforting him, you can quiet his fears. What's required
is to comfort his fear of failing, and encouraging his ability to keep you
happy in a life together for the rest of your life.
Financial worries
When marriage comes up, guys don't have the same ideas women
do. Men usually think about the cost of a wedding more so than the love and the
meaning of it. What's required is to shift his emphasis off of the financial
worries of marriage and onto the meaning of it.
This is done by letting him know that you're flexible when
it comes to leaving out some of the more exorbitant expenses when it comes to
the ceremony and being married. Yes, you have been planning this event your
entire life, but in his thoughts he may be feeling the pressure of satisfying
your expensive dreams. This could be why he is unwilling to getting married.
Let him know your love for him, not just getting married
Some guys assume that they are being used when it comes to
getting married. As some women desire to get married because they feel time is
running out for them, and not because they want to be with a specific guy.
Remind him of your love for him, which is the end goal of
marriage. There needs to be a clear difference that you want to marry him
because you are in love with him, and not just get married for the reasons of a
childhood dream.
These are topics that will encourage him towards marriage,
and what he should be focusing on. There are many thought processes that go
through a man's feelings that stop them from getting married. Understanding his
anxieties can help you as his partner, relax him and help him see marriage the
way you do and he should.
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